Advice on Child Raising for Parents

New born children take a lot of care. There is a lot to do to ensure the child survives and thrives. Notwithstanding the father wishes to do lots - he is to some extent detached because He can't be a nursing mother; He didn't carry the growing feotus in his stomach for 9 months prior to birth through a part of his body usually used for other purposes.  Now, the time after is long. Babies grow to youngsters, children talk, and walk, argue and urinate behind trees on pathways where other people are.  What I'm getting at, is that the journey is long, and the responsibility large, and there is no straight path to doing the best. Forget about the father for a minute. The mother may find that people she spent lots of time with before have to be sidelined a bit for an indefinite time. Also, communication might be shortened, and might be direct and directive. There may be perceived needs which dictate that the mother tell others what is going to happen, in li...

How Children Evolved To Whine And how to stop them from driving you bonkers. By Jessica Grose Oct. 9, 2019, 8:34 a.m. ET Little kids are diabolically engineered to make their parents do what they want. That’s the overwhelming impression I got when I talked to a bunch of academics about the origins of whining. “Children are good at co-opting whatever arsenal of behaviors they have” to get parental attention, said James A. Green, Ph.D., a University of Connecticut psychology professor who studies early social development. The scholars I spoke to agreed that whining was both an under-researched area in developmental psychology, and such common kid behavior that it was likely a cultural universal. Even certain types of monkeys whine, said Rose Sokol-Chang, Ph.D., who studied whining at Clark University, and now works at the American Psychological Association. Monkey and human children alike use “whining to bridge a gap with an adult,” said Dr. Sokol-Chang — which is to say, th...

"Parents" means pair. So there is the first problem.  Every person has an opinion on everything. Even if it is expressed as 'no opinion' it is still an opinion, not to have an opinion. People have different opinions on the same thing. Parents however must have consolidated opinions on raising children. Differing opinions must be resolved into agreed unanimity, not compromise.  And it doesn't really matter which original opinion (or another one) becomes the agreed dual opinion. Ironically, to resolve that question external information and advice should be sought. But after the resolution, external opinions do not matter, and should then be ignored.  The parents' decision is that of a rugby referee: final, binding and unappealable. So parents must also resolve their joint approach to child rearing on the basis of what is good for the kid, permitting eccentricity on their own behalf, but not selfishness. That said, hard decisions must be made and imp...

This is the the real thing. It is incomparable. We stop thinking caring for a dog is meaningful. We start participating in the biggest challenge for us; the life of another, reliant, human. Have fun. Share fun. What a funny word fun is. Now the work merges with the fun. We are the fortunate ones. And we can start a sentence with 'and'. And we can share this challenge and this joy. Lesson 3. PK. May 2019

Mothers know. That babies in their stomachs listen and learn and feel and share, even before the stork plucks them by the wrist and drops them under the cabbage patch (most people don't have cabbage patches, the Australian equivalent, is beside the garbage/recycling bins - but in that case, be sure to watch recurrently to avoid the baby being taken by the council contractors). The (presently) modern world - at least in the Western sphere, is a swirl of contradictions. But the parents are well advised to select their course and try to be as knowledgeable of alternatives as they can, but still stick to the chartered course. What does that mean in practise? Well, good you ask. In this chapter, it means Relax. The kid knows your anxiety level. It isn't good for anyone. Train yourself. Give up bad habits which encourage anxiety in yourself, and don't move anxiety from yourself to the baby piglet; Take it easy. Same thing, but it means adapt to the new burdens of child...

This is my noble aim. I will deliver it in the 3rd person omniscient narration literary style. That carries with it apparent greater gravity, significance and objective authority. What is said, however, will remain mere passing notes - inherently built around personal opinion, perhaps misguided, or not thought out fully, and at times - certainly - wrong. But even a clock which is stopped is correct two times a day. First lesson Your child might be a boy or a girl. It is unlikely to be a coconut, a pig or even an elephant. In many ways raising boys and girls is the same task. Food, shelter, education, health, companionship and love. Whatever it  she is (for this lesson I will use male or female as the mood takes me), for her comfort, enjoyment, to be able to be easily liked and enjoyed, to be good company, to give and receive equally, and to encourage others to wish to enjoin, spend time, assist, and indeed love, you must ensure the child gains an outward focus. Inherently ...